Lately, I’ve been in a funk. I won’t go into a lot of details about it but trust me, it hasn’t been fun. And sadly, it’s been affecting multiple aspects of my life.
I’ve been trying to deal and I’ve talked with a few friends about it and I’ve determined that I’m going through a quarter-life crisis.
According to Wikipedia, here are the characteristics:
- Feeling “not good enough” because one can’t find a job that is at one’s academic/intellectual level
- Frustration with the working world, and finding a suitable job or career
- Confusion of identity
- Insecurity regarding the near future
- Insecurity concerning long-term plans, life goals
- Insecurity regarding present accomplishments
- Re-evaluation of close interpersonal relationships
- Lack of friendships or romantic relationships, sexual frustration, and involuntary celibacy
- Disappointment with one’s job
- Nostalgia for university, college, high school or elementary school life
- Tendency to hold stronger opinions
- Boredom with social interactions
- Loss of closeness to high school and college friends
- Financially-rooted stress (overwhelming college loans, unanticipatedly high cost of living, etc.)
- Loneliness, depression and suicide
- Desire to have children
- A sense that everyone is, somehow, doing better than you
- Frustration with societal ills
I counted and I’m dealing with more than half of those 18 characteristics. Definitely not a good sign.
I do, however, take comfort in the fact the Wikipedia entry states:
These emotions and insecurities are not uncommon at this age, nor at any age in adult life. In the context of the quarter-life crisis, however, they occur shortly after a young person – usually an educated professional, in this context – enters the “real world”. After entering adult life and coming to terms with its responsibilities, some individuals find themselves experiencing career stagnation or extreme insecurity
So, I’m not the only one who goes through it. Unfortunately, it doesn’t make my personal situation any better. I guess I’ve just got to learn to deal and take things one day at a time.
I do have to say that things have been getting better, but progress is slow. I know when I get older I’ll look back on this period of my life and say it was a valuable experience and I learned a lot from it…yada, yada, yada. Hell, I already know this is a valuable experience and something we all go through. But that doesn’t make things easier as I’m dealing.
Sometimes I wish I could just fast forward my life to the point when this crisis has been averted.